Bdsm Ideas – Tips & Tricks – 20 Things to Try If You Are New to BDSM
For those looking to spice up their sex life, the first thing many will try is BDSM. Many are put off trying this as they don’t fully understand it.
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This, however, could not be further from the truth. The reality is that S&M can actually be a fun activity when performed between two consenting partners, and there is so much to it, and so many different areas and activities, that even the most reserved and nervous of people can try out at least some of them. Check out the femdom phone sex here
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BDSM Scene & Punishment Ideas
Using female domination as foreplay is an incredibly erotic experience. Most females have a dominant gene and enjoy controlling a man and setting the scene in BDSM. Many men love the idea of being controlled and dominated by a strong woman, so we have listed some of the best punishment & BDSM scene ideas.
It is a deep-rooted sense of men being the powerful sex, and the role reversal of women being in ultimate control makes it such a turn-on. Of course, it doesn’t have to be that involved. It can just be some mild BDSM to slice up sex life.
What sort of activities can you do and what do you need?
If you need answers to these questions, then read on because below is our list of 20 ideas for kinky sex play
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20 ideas that you can put into your BDSM play.
1 – Use Blindfolds
This may seem tame, and for some, not even covered under the tag of BDSM, but it is one of the most basic acts within the scene. Removing any one of a person’s sensory senses means they have moved partial control to you and this, in turn, heightens all the other senses.
The anticipation of what will be done causes a release of endorphins and makes the entire scene hugely erotic. Once your partner is blindfolded, you can then tease, torment, or torture them, depending on what type of session you are participating in.
2 – Use Handcuffs
Bdsm 101. Handcuffing a partner to the bed has been going on since handcuffs were invented. Using them removes a person’s ability to stop you from doing whatever you want to them, and this gives you 100% control. The complete loss of control and being at your mercy is a huge turn-on and creates a highly charged and hugely erotic experience. Experiment with scarves and ropes as well.
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3 – Spanking
Another basic act that is as old as S&M itself. The ass is a junction box of nerves for the entire body and, as such, makes it a high area of pleasure. Using your hand, a hairbrush, a wooden spoon, or a paddle, if you are both more serious players, you can spank him across your knee as he is bent over a table or standing against a wall.
Use light and soft strokes until you both find the tolerance level. An OTK spanking is a humiliating experience for a man, which also makes it a turn-on. It can be used as an aphrodisiac or as a punishment, whatever suits you. It can also be followed by making him stand in the corner for a length of time. You decide.
4 – Power Shift
Give up 100% control and submit to the other person, who receives 100% control over what you do and what happens. Anything they say goes, and you must do whatever you are told. Foot rub, back rubs, serve them, give them sexual pleasure, anything they say. It is important to lay out parameters and limits and dos and don’ts beforehand so that you both enjoy the session but relinquishing or accepting full control is a fantastic experience.
5 – Roleplay
Many people, especially those in relationships, find it hard to engage in BDSM or femdom. They struggle to abuse or submit to their partner. They find it helpful to be others and use roleplay to “step outside” of themselves and be someone else. There are no limits to roleplay scenarios. You can be the domineering boss to the suffering underlying, a cop who’s abusing a suspect, a boss with a dominant secretary, schoolteacher, and pupil, anything you can think of. As always, though, setting up limits and acceptability beforehand is a must. Check out our fantasy roleplay ideas
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6 – Use Live Femdom Cams
There are lots of BDSM cam sites on the internet which are full of live Dominas online who can teach you the finer points of femdom.
They can give you pointers, hints, and tips and set you on the road to discovery.
Dominatrixes are not man-hating, vicious bitches. They are very pleasant and approachable and will be only too happy to assist you on your journey.
Once you gain some experience, they can also double-team your sub, so he suffers under two mistresses!
7 – Cuckolding
Hugely popular fantasy, but be very careful with it and start slowly. A cuckolding fantasy can range from telling you she wants to sleep with real men to flirt with men in bars to actively sleeping with other men.
Begin by talking about her with other men, what she will do when she is with them etc. Then proceed to her dressing sexily and flirt with other men. Hearing the details or watching her flirt can be a huge turn-on but is also very difficult to take back if it goes too far. Find the limit for both of you and have fun with it. See our cuckold Cams for live interaction
8 – Public Humiliation
For those with experience and willing to push the boundaries, public humiliation is a great activity to cement a power exchange.
To humiliate a sub in front of other people, and to allow yourself to be humiliated, is one of the highest acts in BDSM there is. It can range from things such as wearing a discreet collar and lead in public (possibly through the clothes and exiting a small hole in the pocket that you can “lead” him on, yelling at him in public (possibly also slapping his face and making him apologize loudly) to the extreme making him kiss your feet in public.
9 – Humiliation
If doing it in public is not for you then how about just in private? Humiliating a sub is femdom 101 and can be from making him kiss your ass to slapping his face, denying his right to speak, or making him eat off the floor.
The most popular form of humiliation though is ridiculing his cock and calling it pathetic and useless and telling him he doesn’t satisfy you.
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10- Puppy Play
A very mild form of BDSM, puppy play is just as it says on the tin. The sub acts like a puppy dog and the Mistress is the owner. He will beg, play dead, have his tummy rubbed, play fetch, and get scratched behind the ear whilst Domina will have fun playing with her “pet”.
Puppy play can range from him wearing just a collar to the more extreme side where a full dog costume is worn. Start off slow and find out how far you both want to take it.
11- Nipple Torture
Male nipples are useless and not of any use but incredibly sensitive so why not have fun by torturing them in your s&m session? You can twist them, bite them, put clothes pegs on them, attach clamps to them, tie the string around them, rub them till they hurt, anything you want. Make him squirm
12- Cock And Ball Torture
Another activity with many different levels of play. From a gentle slap to a full-on punch to tying a rope around them to putting pins and needles through the skin, a man’s cock and balls are his most sensitive area so if you are indulging in a pain-centred BDSM session, CBT is where it is most effective.
Be careful though. A soft cock can take an incredible amount of abuse but an erect cock is very delicate. Use clothes pegs on his cock, slap his balls with a wooden spoon, punch his nuts or tie them tightly and tap them with a pencil (might not sound like much but believe me, this HURTS)
13- Hair Pulling
A good form of humiliation and hair-pulling will stop any backchat or fighting he might show. Grab it to pull him to his knees and you can direct his head anywhere you want. To your feet to kiss them, to your arse for some worship, or between your legs for some oral sex. Or you can see it as you are chastising him and yelling at him for his indiscretion, being sure to call him names as you do so. check out the page for more humiliation ideas –https://ukmistresslive.com/humiliation-phone-sex/
14- Face Slapping
Another good form of humiliation, slapping his face will make sure he is focused. Making him stand there as you slap him and yell at him or laugh will make sure he knows exactly who is in charge. This is also an effective form of punishment if he displeases you in any way, as well as being a good deterrent to make sure he always obeys you
15- Forced Feminization
Possibly the most extreme humiliation for a straight man but also a huge turn-on, forcing him to wear women’s clothing is a highly degrading thing. From just a pair of your panties to a bra and knicker set to a full-blown attire with high heels, dresses, stockings, suspenders, wig, and makeup, you can have a lot of fun making him dress up all feminine against his will
16- Tease And Denial
All men think with their cock. Once they are erect, their entire brain is overcome with a need for relief so use it to your advantage.
Tie him to the bed or a chair and then stroke his cock, lick it, rub it, tickle his balls, run a feather over it, lightly scratch his cock head, use his fetishes against him by doing anything that turns him on. Then don’t give him relief. Make him squirm, make him beg, make him plead to be allowed to cum but don’t. Just keep teasing him and denying him release.
17- Pegging
One for all experience levels, pegging basically involves the female wearing a strap on the dildo and fucking the male in the ass with it. Quite humiliating for him yet incredibly erotic and a good way to show the power change as well as give an immense form of power to the female
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18- Timed Orgasm
Working well with number 16 above, giving him a set time limit to achieve orgasm is a fun game to play with him. Tease him then say he has 30 seconds to cum but you can twist his nipples, slap his balls, anything to put him off. When the 30 seconds is up, make him stop then tease him some more. Then repeat the process. Or you can ride his cock and tell him he has 15 seconds to cum. If he fails, unstraddle him and leave him denied. These are just 2 examples but there are hundreds of more ways to play.
19- Gag
Gagging is basic and m thing. Put panties in his mouth, a cloth, or purchase a ball gag from a BDSM website. Anything to stop his screams or moans from disturbing your pleasure and preventing him from answering back!
20- Make Them Beg To Cum
As stated in number 16, all men think with their cock so when you have him aroused and desperate, make him beg you for relief. He will be so horny and desperate that he won’t be able to refuse but the humiliation will live with him.
Making him beg will give you great amusement as you hear the desperation in his voice. Laugh as he pleads for relief, holds your hand close to his throbbing dick, patronizes him, and encourages him to beg for better.
BDSM Ideas in the S&M WORLD
As fun as it can be, the world of S&M and female domination is a vast and intimidating arena to enter but hopefully, this article has given you a starting point on which you can build into bigger and better BDSM activities. If you still want some guidance and are still a bit unsure of how to go about things, why not try a live femdom cams site?
These sites have dozens of Dominas who actually live an s&m lifestyle and they are not, as many believe, nasty bitches. They are very approachable and will be only too happy to help you dip your toe into their world by giving you handy hints, tips, and ideas. These sites are free to join and are always Mistresses online who will be willing to help you.
Good luck and enjoy
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