60 Ideas for Bdsm Slave Training

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How to dominate your male slave.

One of the most popular questions asked by women looking to enter the Dominatrix arena but a different variation is also asked by women who’s husband’s or boyfriend’s who want to be dominated. Bdsm devotion tasks With techniques and methods to use

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Many people think femdom (as female domination is more popularly know by) is just slap his face, call him a bad boy and then tie him up and whip him for half an hour.

That couldn’t be further from the truth, and might actually be counterproductive.

When someone wants to be dominated, they have a specific area of BDSM that they like.

It is a vast, vast world and no one ever likes ALL of it, they only ever want some of it so the first thing to do is find out what it is he likes.

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This is actually easier said than done since many men who like to be controlled and get turned on from femdom are embarrassed and don’t like talking about it, especially with their partner or the Mistress they have chosen to serve.

Getting them to open up is half the battle but once they have done (hint: LOTS of talking and reassurance you won’t be disgusted or think they are weird and are open to trying anything is the best way to go) you then need to know how to proceed. Our slaves will always be taught to be devoted to us

Many men want to be dominated but will resist when you try. It’s a male thing. They want it but their macho side kicks in and tries to stop them submitting.

Its frustrating, especially considering he asked for it, but the best way to respond is to understand that he isn’t doing it to annoy you, he’s doing it because he’s ashamed of wanting to be dominated by a woman. Rather than throwing in the towel, my advice is keep persevering.

Eventually, he will submit better and you can both enjoy your sessions. This may seem a strange thing to say but BDSM and female domination can actually be a lot of fun for both parties.

As long as you both remember to stay within the boundaries of your own limits and respect each other then you can have a fantastic time.

BDSM devotion tasks Are listed below please be sure to read and memorize them  to impress your dominant female

So exactly how to dominate a slave I hear you ask?

Well, no two submissive men are the same but here we will list you  60 ways to dominate and control your male submissive.

What you need to do is take them on board and adapt them to suit your own personal sessions.

We will give you the outline, a few examples possibly, and the rest you can make your own.

Females looking to become a Dominatrix professionally can also benefit from reading these. I have almost 20 years experience as both an online Dominatrix on femdom cams and as a real-time Domme.

Take what I read here and mould it into your own personality and type of Mistress you want to be.

You might like everything, you might think some are not for you, some might be but not as much as described. Read, learn and be your own Goddess by putting your own unique spin on things.

If you want to learn more but would rather talk to an actual live person, have you considered using a live femdom webcam site?

There are hundreds of dominant women on here and they will be more than happy to spend some time with you and explain the basics and delve a little deeper into the BDSM lifestyle and what it entails.

They have the experience and expertise you might require to help you get started, and can guide you in dipping your toe in the game in order to set you on the path to being the Dominatrix you want to be.

  • – Make him kiss your feet. Getting a slave to kiss or massage your feet is femdom 101. These are tasks they must always do. For starters, it means they have to be on their knees and you are above them. Of course, if your slave has a foot fetish you can deny him access to your feet. Forbid him from kissing or massaging them and don’t even let him see them by wearing big fluffy socks. He will soon fall back into line!
  • – Make him kiss your ass. Either when you are wearing tight trousers or a skirt or on your bare ass cheeks. Make him get on his knees and dangle your ass in front of him for a few seconds then make him lean in and start kissing.
  • Have him tongue shine your boots. Your boots need to be clean all the time and what better way than to get a lowly male to do them? Throw your boots on the floor (or better yet, have him go and do it) then leave him to it. If he has really pissed you off, get some of them really dirty
  • – Put a collar on him. You own him. He is yours, and what better way to show this than putting a collar on him and make him wear it all the time. It will keep him always aware of his status
  • Change his name. Change it to anything you like (has to be mutually acceptable though obviously). Good suggestions are spud, toad, wankstain, spunk stain, loser or idiot. Using “slave” also works but is kind of boring don’t you think!
  • – Face slapping. This will bring him back down a peg or two if he starts to get too big for his boots. It’s also effective as a punishment or if you are mad at him for something. Make him stand there while you slap his face.
  • – Spank him. One of the most humiliating things to do to a slave but also one of the most popular things submissive men enjoy. If he needs to be punished, the most effective way is to put him across your knee for an OTK spanking. Pull his trousers down, pull him across your lap and let his arse cheeks have it. Make him count the smacks or have him thank you after everyone.
  • – Corner time. Mostly used after a sound spanking but also effective if you just want some peace and space away from him. Make him stand in the corner facing the wall for a period of time of your choosing. To make it harder for him (and more amusing for you) have him hold a coin in place with his nose. If it is a punishment for something serious, also put two coins so he has to hold them with his arms outstretched and two he needs to hold with his knees.
  • – Ballbusting. Or cock and ball torture. Their junk is a mans most treasured and protected area. So delicate and sensitive but why would they just hang out there like that if not meant for abuse by a sadistic dominatrix? Slap their balls, knee them, kick them, punch them, attach them to an e-stims or tens machine and zap electricity through them, cane them or anything else that takes your fancy as long as it hurts him badly
  • – Nipple torture. Male nipples are useless so might as well have fun with them by torturing them. Twist them, bite them, put clothes pegs or clamps on them or if you are both brave enough you can burn them with cigarettes.
  • – Make him wear a butt plug. It’s degrading for any man to have something up his ass so put a butt plug up there then make him keep it in till you say he can take it out. To amuse yourself, make him sit on a wooden bench or a hard chair.
  • Whip him, cane him or take your belt to him. Either strap him facedown on the bed, a table or strap him to hooks in the ceiling or the wall and then take your whip or cane to him. Always aim for fleshy parts though (buttocks, upper back, thighs etc) and steer well clear of the kidney area. Get him to count every stroke and to thank you after everyone as well
  • – Ensure he always addresses you by your proper moniker. To cement the fact that you are in charge, make sure he addresses you properly. Whether you want to be called Mistress, Goddess, Princess, Queen or Amazonia, ALWAYS make him call you by that. Use punishments if he forgets.
  • – Text him randomly throughout the day with instructions and give him a short response time to reply. For example, “Send me a photo of your cock in chastity. You have 3 minutes”. This works great if he is at work and you are bored in the house!
  • – Give him menial tasks to perform. The lower the better. Have him clean the toilet with his toothbrush, get him to hand wash all the laundry, have him use a scrubbing brush to clean the floor (walk across bits he has cleaned with dirty boots or shoes a few times), get him to rearrange your entire wardrobe into categories (then change your mind after he has spent hours at it!) or send him to the garage and have him tidy it out.
  • Give him mind-numbingly boring tasks. Instead of menial, crush his spirit and resistance by giving him soul-crushingly boring tasks. Tip a bag of rice on the floor, give him chopsticks and tell him to pick every grain of rice up and put it in a bowl. Crush a box of cornflakes and tell him to count how many pieces there are in total. Take him to the garden, tell him you want the grass cut to an even 30cm all over, hand him a ruler and scissors and tell him to get busy

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  • – Give him no leeway. I can’t stress this enough. If a male slave is acting out, if you give him an inch, he will take a mile. If he back chats, refuses an order, disrespects you or anything not becoming then punishment and reprimand must be given. (Obviously, the exception is if you are trying something new and he decides to stop because he isn’t enjoying it or it hurts too much for example)
  • – Cock milking. Submissive males who enjoy femdom will almost always get erect and turned on. By massaging his prostate, you can make him ejaculate all the cum in his balls. Get him on all fours and massage it till he shoots his load. It’s very humiliating for him to be milked in this fashion, and even worse that he will receive no pleasure from it since it’s not an orgasm.
  • – Don’t let him talk or speak. Effective punishment for slaves who talk back, backchat or whine too much for your liking. Simply tell him “I’m taking away your speaking privileges. No more talking till I say so”. This is much more effective than you might think as not being allowed to speak is hell and degrading at the same time
  • – He now does all the household chores. Stands to reason really. All the cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing, hoovering, everything, is now his responsibility. Do random inspections to make sure it is up to standard (making sure to always find things that are wrong. There’s no fun in it for the sub if he can’t be punished by an impossible to please Mistress)
  • – Make him eat a meal he hates at least once a week. He needs to understand that you control everything about him and his life so take food he detests and make him have 1 meal of it every week. He will appreciate the other times you allow him to eat the food he enjoys more (plus if he steps out of line you can simply say “Do you want x-food for your diner tonight?” to rein him in)
  • – Make him pee sitting down. So simple yet so effective. Don’t let him stand up to pee like a real man, make him sit down like a girl. This is an effective punishment technique to train your slave as well, since he will try to avoid the days or weeks you will make him do this
  • Get him to hump your leg. For some slaves, even masturbating is too good for them so instead, sit on the settee or a chair and tell him to rub his boner on your leg to get himself off
  • – Make him wear your underwear. Wearing women’s knickers is humiliating enough but to have to wears yours? Especially your dirty, worn ones? Now that is degrading. Make sure he wears them at all times, even to bed, for a set period of time. Utilise Number 14 on this list to ensure compliance.
  • Dress him up as a female. Being forced to cross-dress is a huge fantasy of many submissives. They feel guilty and hate their need to dress so can alleviate this by you “forcing” him to do it against his will. From simple things such as stockings, sissy knickers and high heels to full get-up complete with dress, wig and makeup.
  • – Forbid him from seeing you pleasure yourself. Watching a female masturbate is a huge turn-on for men, so use this to your advantage and make it a treat. If you feel he needs to learn a lesson, blindfold him or make him sit in the next room and leave the doors open so he can hear you. Make sure to groan and moan loudly and have a VERY loud orgasm.
  • – Lend him to your friends. If they are not other Mistresses then this may just need to be a “talked about only” fantasy where you discuss what would happen but he could be lent to your friends for a night to pamper and serve them, as a sex slave for them, as a maid for their dinner parties or for anything they want.
  • – Don’t allow him to masturbate unless in your presence. Supervised masturbation is extremely humiliating. Have him on his knees or standing in front of you as he jerks off. Sit with your legs crossed, your arms folded and stare at him wanking, looking at him and smirking occasionally.
  • – Orgasm control. You control his orgasms, not him. YOU decide if he has earned the right to cum or not. If he is masturbating, make him stop just before he orgasms
  • – Lock him in chastity. To make number 29 above more effective, lock his cock in chastity and become his online chastity keyholder. Now he can’t even get hard never mind cum without your permission and knowledge. Control the cock you control the man, and if you deny a man any relief and you are the only ones who can give it to him then he will become VERY submissive to you and you won’t believe the things he will do to gain that relief
  • – Make him suck your strap on. Get him on his knees and make him give your cock a blow job. Make him suck that strap on for hours and give it the best head possible.
  • Fuck him with your strap on. Better yet, bend him over, lube up your cock, spread his cheeks and fuck his ass. Slap his cheeks and make him tell you how much he enjoys getting fucked up the ass by your big dick
  • He must shave all parts of his body that you want smooth. You don’t like male pubic hair? Gone. Hate a hairy chest? It’s gone. Beard? Gone. Legs? Nope, gone. The beauty of being his Mistress is that he needs to groom himself to please you, not what he prefers, so you can have him any way you want.
  • – Don’t let him share your bed. Make him sleep on the settee, in the spare bed or even on the floor next to your bed. It doesn’t matter, as long as he learns to realise that it is YOUR bed and he sleeps in it as a privilege granted by you that you can take away when he displeases you.
  • – Make him sleep on something rough. To add to number 34 above, especially if you are making him sleep on the floor, make him lie on a coarse rug, a pile of wool sweaters or a thin sheet over a pile of uncooked rice.
  • – Have him hand wash all your underwear. This is especially effective if you have taken away his sexual relief or are denying him sex with you. Make him take your sexiest lingerie and skimpiest bras, knickers, panties and thongs and have him wash them all by hand
  • – Bastinade. Beat the soles of his feet. A hairbrush, a wooden spoon, a belt or a cane are all effective tools to use bastinade
  • Take away his bathroom privileges. If he needs to go to the toilet, he needs to ask. If he has annoyed you with his whining or his general lack of ability to please you in any way, simply tell him no. He must hold it till you relent or until he pisses himself. (Word of warning though, holding in urine can damage the kidneys so don’t take this too far)
  • Have him fuck a blow-up doll. This is incredibly effective if you are not allowing him sex or have denied him any relief for an extended period of time (for example, you have had him in chastity). Have him take a blow-up doll and if he wants relief, he needs to fuck it
  • – Groom yourself away he hates. Almost all men love shaved pussy so if he is in the bad books with you, grow your muff full of pubic hair and make him go down on you. If he hates hairy armpits or legs, don’t shave and make him worship them. He will soon learn not to annoy you
  • Ridicule his penis size with small penis humiliation. You need to be VERY careful with this as men can be overly sensitive about their cock size. Lots of subs get off on having their cock size mocked and insulted but if your sub isn’t one of them then you can say something that can’t be taken back if you aren’t careful. If this is something he says he is into, call him maggot dick, baby penis and call it his “little thing”. Compare it to chipolatas, baby carrots and biro lids, wiggle your pinkie finger at him and laugh when he shows you it. See our small dick pics here
  • – Cuckolding. If you thought 41 was a minefield, be even MORE cautious with cuckolding. There is a world of difference between fantasy and reality. Talk about other men you like, how big their dicks are, how good in bed your exes were compared to him, how much you fancy so and so etc. As long as you have agreed on ground rules beforehand (the biggest one being, are real people you know allowed to be mentioned. If you say you wonder how big his best friends dick is then that’s something you can’t unsay). If you decide to bring another man into the scenario for real, do NOT use someone either of you knows
  • – Pimp him out. Rent out his ass to horny strangers, or his mouth to guys just looking for a cheap blow job. For added effect, YOU take the money. Don’t even let him touch it!
  • – Make HIM pick his punishment. Write down all the punishments you use on pieces of paper (being sure to add in all the ones he hates) then put them in a jar and have HIM pick one. He can’t complain if it was him who choose it can he?
  • – Make him earn sex. It is a well-known fact that men will become super attentive and sweet when they want sex. If you have a submissive for a partner then you have it doubly good as you can get him to do ANYTHING to earn sex with you. Massage, foot worship, lots of oral (for you that is. Another bonus of a submissive partner is that you can get licked out as often as you want and you never need to put his dick anywhere near your mouth!) right down to making your coffee, meals, shoulder rubs, anything you want. And he will do it because he wants you so badly!
  • – Spit on him or make him swallow your saliva. Extremely degrading. Spitting on someone is showing how much contempt you have for them so do it to him and make him leave your spit on his face or have him open his mouth and let huge drops and strings of spit drop into his mouth and make him swallow it
  • – Ignore him. Ever had an argument and given a man the silent treatment? He comes crawling back to you soon enough doesn’t he? Now imagine how much it will torment a submissive to be ignored by you when he has pissed you off or annoyed you. He will really suffer as he desperately tries to get you to acknowledge him. Keep it going as long as you want.
  • – Make him write lines. Maybe 1000 times “I will always obey my Mistress”. OR 2000 times “I am worthless and not worthy of the attention of my Goddess”. Have him sit on a hard chair and set him a time limit.
  • Get him to write an essay. A really long one all about his journey into servitude and slavery and how he feels when he submits to you and accepts your command.
  • – Take away his luxuries. They are called luxuries for a reason and if he back chats, is getting lazy or just too big for his boots, take them away. Tv time? Gone. Beers? Gone. Going out with his buddies? Bye-bye. Nice juicy steak? Ut uh, gone. He wants luxuries, he has to earn them
  • – Get him to clean all your whips and canes. He hates getting caned or whipped so make his torment worse by having him clean these tools of pain beforehand. Mock him by saying “Oh you LOVE that one don’t you?” or “Wow you will really feel that one across your arse”
  • – Give him a humiliating enema. Enemas are pretty humiliating at the best of times but you can mock him and insult him as you lube up the tubing and pour in the liquid
  • – Sleep deprivation. You can make him spend all night tongue shining your boots, tie him to the bed in the spare room and put heavy rock music on loud or put him in a straight jacket and put earphones on him with music playing. He will not be able to sleep and of course, you can expect him to still maintain a high level of chores the next day, even though he hasn’t slept
  • – Have him wear high heel shoes for an entire day. As a woman, you know how much high heels hurt to wear. So make him wear a pair for an entire day, ensuring he has to walk about a lot. It will let him understand the suffering that women have to go through. Be sure to punish him if he complains about his sore feet
  • Punish an unauthorised erection. Erections are for sexual pleasure. If you don’t want to use his cock then he shouldn’t have it hard. He needs to stay soft until you want to use it so be sure to give him harsh punishments if he gets a hard-on without your permission. To make it more fun for you, tease him with revealing outfits, rub his cock or flash your tits!
  • – Jerk off instructions. Don’t let him masturbate in the way of his choosing. You dictate to him. You tell him how fast, how slow, what hand to use, when to start, when to stop, to use only upwards strokes or anything else you want. Mix them up and bark the orders at him quickly.
  • – Cum eating instructions. If you decide to allow him to cum then he must lick up his mess. Make him cum over some bread, on a plate to be licked clean, from the dirty floor, into his hand or over your boots.
  • – Have him run a blog online. Make him post entries every day about what he has done, what you did to him, how he felt and why he strives every day to serve you better and better.
  • – Order for him in a restaurant. For those who like public humiliation, this is perfect. When you have ordered, the server will turn to him and at that, you say “Oh no no no, I’ll order for him. He doesn’t get to decide these things”.
  • Make him your toilet slave. There are many different levels to this. You can make him lick you after you have urinated or defecated, depending on his extreme zone. Or you can urinate r defecate right into his mouth and make him swallow it

So there you go. 60 ways to dominate your slave and control a male. Some work well in a Domme/sub relationship, some are better suited to real-time sessions and some work for either real-time or on live femdom webcam.

Pick the ones that you want to try, or ones that your sub has suggested, and add your own spin to them. Take what you like and make it your own. But above all else, remember to have fun!

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